 The Vacuum- credit: Wayne "Juggler" Elise
I didn't read the entire list, so apologies if someone has already mentioned this.
The swinger lifestyle is referred to as The Lifestyle. I have a background in the pick-up/seduction community which we refer to as simply The Community. In The Community, we have a term for what you are experiencing; it's called a sticking point. More specifically, your sticking point has to do with escalation.
I'm going to give you a very powerful example of how to fix this problem. There is quite a bit that goes into this, but I am a big fan of running before walking.
Do exactly this:
The next time you are in rapport (having fun) with a person, wait for a high point in the conversation. When that moment comes, say confidently and sincerely, "hey, I like you." After that, shut the fuck up. Do not speak, do not move, just hold eye contact and have a look of quiet expectancy. Stick to your guns, and wait for them to respond. After they do (usually by blushing and admitting that they like you too), you can release the tension and reward them with a hug, kiss, etc.
Other things you can say:
-You're sexy
-I want to kiss you
-Wow, that was one of those moments
-You look like you're a good kisser
-Any pointed open ended question
Ta da- you have just escalated. Good luck.
-Jareth
p.s. As I mentioned before, there are many reasons why this works, but if you do it just like this, you should see immediate results. |