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Originally Posted by highlander  One thing I'm curious about here:
how many bareback folks here regularly get tested for STD's? |
I haven't ever been tested. My wife has been tested recently for reasons unrelated to swinging. She has no STD's, so I am assuming I probably don't either.
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Originally Posted by highlander How many ask for test results from partners? |
As I am firmly convinced any test results they showed me would be meaningless, I have never, nor will I ever ask for test results from a play partner. Frankly, if I was worried enough about a play partner to want them to be tested, I wouldn't want to play with them anyway.
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Originally Posted by highlander How many would provide test results to a partner on request? |
Not me, similar to my answer to the previous question, if my potential play partner is that worried about me, I wouldn't want to play with them.
My only other comment regarding this condom issue is based on an observation we have made over the years. That is, that in the lifestyle, it is very politically correct for people to say they are a condom only when asked, but when they find out that you are willing to play without condoms they suddenly admit that they prefer not to use them either.
This has a very interesting effect, which is if you ask someone who truly is condom only, if most people in the lifestyle use condoms for sex. They would say yes they do, because that is what most people told them when they asked. On the other hand, if you ask someone who openly admits they prefer not to use condoms, if most people in the lifestyle use condoms for sex. They will say no, the vast majority of people in the lifestyle prefer not to use condoms. The difference is, while both people received the same answer from folks when they originally asked them if they required condoms for sex. The second group that prefers not to use condoms and is willing to tell folks that, will have the majority of those same people they asked change their answer when they find out that they prefer not to use condoms.
That is why in the last 6 years or so of active swinging, we have only been requested to use condoms about 5 or 6 times, which amounts to less than 10 percent of the folks we hooked up with for sex. Yet, well over 50% of those people we played with in that time said they were strictly condom only when we originally asked them if they required condom use.
Of course, I understand why people do this, as we have had two couples over the years decline to hook up with us because we admitted to preferring not to use condoms. Even though we told them we had no problem using condoms if they preferred for us to do so. Frankly, it didn't bother us though, we wouldn't feel comfortable playing with someone that felt that way anyway.