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Originally Posted by rickmccool  According to an article in the latest issue of Psychology Today about 25% or the population harbor some type of fantasy, kink, fetish or dark secret not considered normal.
Does that make you feel better about yourself? Does me. |
First: I think it is probably higher than 25%. I believe due to the pressures of general society and what general society as a whole portrays as expectations, several people would not admit to harboring such fantasies even in a closed anonymous setting out of fear of being an outcast in their social circles. Among other kinks, I enjoy giving spankings and receiving on occasion, and I consider myself an average guy.
Second: In reference to individuals kink fetish or secret not considered normal: We really need to look at what normal is really defined by, the norms or acceptable behavior or ideas on how to conduct oneself by the individuals, environment, and population around those individuals with the "kink" or "fetish". You have to consider that as we live our lives from day to day all of these things change because of the way most swingers (well most non-swingers also) need to compartmentalize their lives (work compartment, family compartment, extended family compartment, vanilla friends compartment, neopolitan friends compartment, etc). I've found that norms or accepted behavior in one group of freinds may not be acceptable to other groups of friends (you can tell this just by the reactions of some friends when you integrate different compartments of friends). So point is normal for most individuals constantly changes.
Third and Finnally (to sum up first and second): Even though I realize normal is relative to where you are with respect to what compartment you're in, I still have that fear of non-acceptance as many do (but most don't admit their fears, and if I'm odd because I do admit them, so be it). However, with the article that shows that many have fetishes or kinks of some sort, it does make me feel better. And, it should give others confidnence in the activities they want to engage in, and reduce fears of non-acceptance.
Note: Don't get me wrong, and go into work thinking you can tell them about how you spanked your wife or what ever your fetish is. You may find yourself without a job or no longer in some groups of freinds that aren't as open-minded.
That's my 2 cents ........+ a nickle....