[bryanlee]

Well, here is something that has affected me in the past. I have been married/divorced before and Sharon is the first actual relationship i was in after that divorce. There were other women, but nobody i came close to caring for. After some time I started thinking of marriage. I never proposed, but i did try to talk to her about it and get her thoughts on a few different occasions. After talking to her it became apparent that she was not interested in marriage at that point in her life. At first i took it that she just didn't want to marry me. That was not the case, but for some reason it was hard for me not to see it that way.

After I got over the idea that she just wasn't interested in marriage because of me, I started to think about why i wanted to get married again. I couldn't come up with any good reasons, lol. It's not to say that she isn't the person I want to be with when i grow old, but i just no longer feel that when the time is right I will know.

We have been living together for almost two years now and I'm not sure what getting married would change for us besides wearing a ring, which in all honesty is annoying to me.

I would try to understand all of his reasons for not feeling ready for marriage before i worried myself too much or walked away from an otherwise good relationship.

On a side note, I like knowing that she has the freedom to get up and leave everyday, yet she chooses to remain by my side through good times and not so good.