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Listen to chicup, his post is excellent advice.

I can only ad one other thing. When looking for playmates, resist the urge of trying to hook up with people through non-traditional means (non-swingers), it almost never works out good. What I mean by that is, friends, acquaintances, random people on the internet, are not the way to go. To find playmates, go where the swingers are, like swingers clubs or swinger dating sights on the internet. The reason for this is, people who are swingers already know the rules. Personally, I wouldn't touch a single from a sex chat sight with a ten foot pole. The odds of him becoming a problem later are just too high. The standard non-swinger single that is willing to hook up with a married woman for sex often thinks that she needs him because she isn't satisfied with her husband. And if he likes her, he may decide that it is his mission in life to take her away from that. Whereas, an experienced swinger knows that it is just about recreational sex, and will not be nearly as likely to become drama that you will need to extricate yourself from later.