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Originally Posted by Chicup  Ok I have to admit, I did not read your wall of text past the first question.
Here are some issues with the MFM than FMF thing.
Getting an MFM is about as hard as getting a mosquito bite in a swamp for most couples.
In an FMF the extra F is called a unicorn for a reason.
So don't expect an FMF anytime soon after.
We started with a couple and I think that worked out the best for us. As newbies we were very turned on by the idea but still had the usual jealousies and nervousness. By each swinging with a new partner we were 'even' and as a somewhat possessive male I felt 'even' with the other man as well. I did have a bit of jealousy after our first time but I justified it to myself by knowing I had sex with his wife too. These days its not an issue, but sometimes you don't know you have demons to slay until you face them head on.
Another thing we have seen over the years on this board are people who first do an FMF or MFM and then their partner decides they don't want to do more, or are uncomfortable with the opposite. Its the whole fairness in swinging concept. Starting with a couple means we had our cake and ate it too, there was nothing to be resentful of.
So for some I'm sure your plan is fine, for us, couples were the way to go. |
I quoted Chicup because this is the best answer to this... And please allow me to expand upon it.
We started out much like you are want to, in that we did MFM threesomes with the idea that the next one, or down the road we would do "mine" the FMF .. 13 years later, the wait continues..lol
But seriously, starting with a MFM is fine, it will allow you both to expereince a evening of pleasure and have a brush with this lifestyle that you can use to decide if this might be for you both.
Two points must be made though:
First, in such an evening, for YOU Loki, must keep the "go with the flow" attitude, there might be times where all 3 are engaged in activity and others where someone, you or him is on the sidelines.. waiting to get tagged in..
Second point is to enjoy yourselves, with the idea firmly planted that you are doing this for fun and pleasure.. at the end of the night, he goes home and you both go home together.. So there is no need for the green eyed monster to rear its ugly head..
And the key point to this or any encounter you decide to have is, when its over TALK IT THRU.. this slays the demons before they can get a foothold..
The first time we experienced a evening with a couple, the ride home was such a talk.. What surprised me in the conversation was the things she was bothered by.. we talked it thru, and by the time we were home, she was at the PC writing the email , setting up the next visit.
Now then, While Loki did a great job explain the events thus far, I am curious as to what the Lady Sif is thinking/feeling about all this.