Hey Chicup...you made some good points. Yes, I realize that finding a 3rd woman for an FMF isn't exactly a quick and easy thing to do. My wife has actually said she'd like me to go first, and I would if there was a candidate who's ready-to-go on my front. (There might be one or two potential possibilities for me at the moment...a waitress we know and another acquaintance whom we know through some of our friends.)
I'm not worried that it'll never happen for me (I've had explicit affair offers before, and not too long ago I had to end a lap dance at a strip bar because it was about to go too far!), but you've made a good point. I don't think my wife would change her mind about an FMF for me, we've talked about her comfort level seeing me do another woman. But, something could change for us as a couple (some new challenge, like career or extended family) that could make it infeasible, so that's something that I hadn't thought about (which is exactly why I made this post). So, sounds like my wife and I should talk about this some.
Come to think of it, my wife has alluded to the fact that she wished her cyber-BF would bring a girl with him (and come to think of it, she has made a joke about hooking me up with the waitress in question the same visit weekend), so maybe she would feel more comfortable with a couple as well. Thanks...you've given us some more topics for emotionally intimate conversations about all this.
Loki