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Originally Posted by shags  The sentiment that it is harder if you're soft swap is interesting. You would think that there'd be fewer people at the "extreme" and progressively more people the more vanilla you get. Either that's the case (and what makes people want to stay soft swap also makes them harder to find), or it's full swap that's more prevalent and it is actually the soft swappers who are farther from vanilla! |
I wish you much luck in finding what you are looking for.
Basically what you are talking about is same room sex...for us I'm not sure that would even register as a soft swap since there is not even a hint of interaction between the couples (even a fondle or kiss). Like others have said, some folks start by just playing with each other in the play areas with only each other...but that is used as a stepping stone so to speak towards a different goal. Most people are involved for the "extreme"...more the 'in for a penny, in for a pound' mindset. Ours was, 'We want to do it...let's do it and see how we feel later and work through things as they come up'.
Agreed that SLS is probably not the best site to try to find what you are looking for...either just going to a club and playing in the main playroom where you can see and be seen...most people are pretty respectful and will not just jump in on what you are doing. Or there are plenty of vanilla folks that, once they get a few drinks in them especially, might get a kick out of same room sex.
to the SB...hope to hear more on how your search is coming along!
