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We voted "No, it's not about the numbers", not because we can't recall the names or great sexual experiences, but because we can count the number of couples we have played with on fingers of two hands. Then it's not too hard to remember at least first names of those we have swapped mates with for social fun as well as for sexual intercourse.

It is somewhat analagous to the dates one has had before hitching your wagon to one's present mate. Again, since the number of girlfriends/boyfriends prior to marriage has been under a dozen, it's easy to remember at least the first names. And, the ones we distinctly remember are those with whom we have had sexual intercourse after a date. The most memorable ones are the ones where intercourse happened on the very first date or those who were particularly awesome in bed.

We suppose the swinging experiences are no different. One selectively tends to remember couples that were or are great social and sexual mates. The ones we swapped mates with for play followed by sexual intercourse are etched in the memory, particularly if swap partners were sexually adept.

So, overall its about quality of the social and sexual experience and not about numbers of couples you have played and swapped mates with for intercourse, social as well as sexual.