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Originally Posted by STi623  well i did mess up even tho there werent any boundaries set i guess for me...i guess when you question something of being wrong i guess you should make sure its not wrong...my gf is kind of over what happend between her friend and i...i told my gf that i wouldnt mess around w/her anymore. |
Ok, lets take this all the way back to the top... In your original post you explained that these to lovely women, went to each other house for evenings WITHOUT you.. And your GF expected you to be OK with this right?
Since there werent any rules that said you couldnt enjoy the OTHER F, being upset over missing that part, because she was asleep is normal, but beyond that, whats good for the goose is good for the gander.. Unspoken rules are the easiest to break..
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heres the current issue....my GF has really strong feelings for her friend...not the type that she'll break up w/me and leave me for her...but more like this strong infatuation that she cant get over...i know her friend likes her too...but she doesnt want any of our friends to find out whats happend. We had a chat last nite the 3 of us...but i feel like nothing got resolved or not a clear solution was made...they both admitted having feelings for each other, but the only thing that was said was for them not to talk as often.
I think what happened is that things might have moved to quickly as well as feelings...the only thing i could think of now is for her friend not to come around as much or fool around either...they both said yesterday they wouldnt fool around anymore with eachother...but have both openly admitted that they still want to...so im just frustrated at the fact that they put themselves through this and i have to hear it.
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First, sitting and talking.. Great Idea... doing it ONLINE.. not so great
The simplest answer is also the most complex..
continue the way you are going, with everyone, the both of them wanting but not getting/doing and you as the chief reason why not..
OR get them in the same room, and talk it out.. Still want to continue.. come up with basic rules.. Who can fuck who, and when.. but BE CLEAR.. and make sure each of them are on the same page..
Beyond that, look up the TRIAD concept..