Around Easter my ex-husband dropped the bomb on me that he was getting engaged. Now, I give him credit for at least telling me...but I think he only did it because our kids had seen the ring and knew he was going to propose to the lady he's been dating. I think he didn't want them to dime him out.
To say the least it hit me like a ton of bricks. I knew he had been dating (hell, after he first moved away I was like his own personal dating coach) the same girl for a while, but had no idea things had gotten that serious.
Then today...I mean, yesterday (Tuesday)...he tells me that they've finally set a date...for August...as in roughly a month away. She wants to get married on a date with all the same numbers...and since he didn't want to wait til 9/9/09...well here we are.
And when these things happen I look at mine and Jeff's relationship...yes, I know...it's not like comparing apples to apples...and may be the comparisons are unfair...but I can't help but wonder why we aren't married (or at the least engaged) when we've been together for over 3 years. And then my over-thinking self just lets it snowball into a big ol' wave (snowball?
) of negativity. I know, not constructive...but I guess everyone is entitled to a pity party now and then.
I know that many folks here are on second marriages. So I guess the main point of this little tale of woe is: if your ex- was remarried before you were, how did you handle it? Did you send a gift? Is there an etiquitte for this sort of thing?
Any advice is appreciated!