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rudrjunk · 07-01-2008, 04:03 PM

Hi,

First of all - Welcome to the board.

We have been members of this board for quite a long time. Well let me come out with the truth. I have been a member of the board for quite some time. Most of the time I spend is lurking and reading on the posts.

We have been married for close to 18 years with 4 years of dating. So all in all, we know each other for like 22 years and we are only 39 years old.

We have never, I repeat, never dated anyone else nor had any sexual encounters with anyone except each other. So I introduced her to swinging during my first married month. And that was my biggest mistake. I ended up having no sex for one month.

Then I never spoke of it till like 4 years ago. This time, she atleast listened to me and we spoke of it on and off. In fact we even ended up going for a date with another couple, but it never went beyond chatting. Mainly, because, we did not know what to expect.

That's when we figured out, that this lifestyle is not for everyone. So being the man that I am, I started reading up on the lifestyle and also brought books back home to understand the emotional and sentimental feelings that married couples go thru.

So RESEARCH is the key to enjoying any type of lifestyle, whether it is an erotic or non-erotic lifestyle.

Since the past 2 years, I keep telling her of my fantasies, and she joins me in my verbal fantasies, even playing the part sometimes, and man we rock. We even started visiting some clubs around our area. We sit and talk a bit with the other couples, but have not yet taken the step of even a soft swap. It takes a lot of courage to see your better half being touched by someone else and enjoy it without a tinge of negative feeling. And we are not up to it at present.

Based on my experience(s), I think that a lot of men fantasize similarly and as others have pointed out, the fantasy, may never turn into reality. The best way to approach the lifestyle is to research, talk to others (like this forum), create ground rules and most of all, be honest with each other.

Cheers!!!

07-01-2008, 04:03 PM	#18 (permalink)
rudrjunk Here to Stay Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 58 Location: Schaumburg, IL Status: Couple	Re: He opened the door... Hi, First of all - Welcome to the board. We have been members of this board for quite a long time. Well let me come out with the truth. I have been a member of the board for quite some time. Most of the time I spend is lurking and reading on the posts. We have been married for close to 18 years with 4 years of dating. So all in all, we know each other for like 22 years and we are only 39 years old. We have never, I repeat, never dated anyone else nor had any sexual encounters with anyone except each other. So I introduced her to swinging during my first married month. And that was my biggest mistake. I ended up having no sex for one month. Then I never spoke of it till like 4 years ago. This time, she atleast listened to me and we spoke of it on and off. In fact we even ended up going for a date with another couple, but it never went beyond chatting. Mainly, because, we did not know what to expect. That's when we figured out, that this lifestyle is not for everyone. So being the man that I am, I started reading up on the lifestyle and also brought books back home to understand the emotional and sentimental feelings that married couples go thru. So RESEARCH is the key to enjoying any type of lifestyle, whether it is an erotic or non-erotic lifestyle. Since the past 2 years, I keep telling her of my fantasies, and she joins me in my verbal fantasies, even playing the part sometimes, and man we rock. We even started visiting some clubs around our area. We sit and talk a bit with the other couples, but have not yet taken the step of even a soft swap. It takes a lot of courage to see your better half being touched by someone else and enjoy it without a tinge of negative feeling. And we are not up to it at present. Based on my experience(s), I think that a lot of men fantasize similarly and as others have pointed out, the fantasy, may never turn into reality. The best way to approach the lifestyle is to research, talk to others (like this forum), create ground rules and most of all, be honest with each other. Cheers!!!