[JustAskJulie]

The good news is that it sounds like you guys have great communication and that will take you everywhere you need to go. In the end you have to find what works for the two of you and it sounds like that might not be swinging. Given the situation and your difference in desires (at least at this point) I don't see where continuing to go to on-premise clubs would be a good thing for the two of you. From the sounds of it K doesn't really enjoy having others have sex next to him, and while he was ok having sex with someone else while you watch, it doesn't sound like that really completely fulfills either of your fantasies either (it sounds more like that might have been something he did to fulfill your fantasy). Keep talking and keep trying new things. I definately understand where you are coming from but the good news is that you do have a guy who loves you and is willing to do what it takes to help you satisfy your fantasies and cravings.