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Originally Posted by RedHeaded  Well, The reason I am here is mainly because my husband opened the door to swinging and I'm not sure how to take it.
We have been married for a few years and we were talking about our likes and dislikes as we try to learn more and more about each others desires and such, when he said that he has had a fantasy about me being with another man while he was there.
I'm not sure if he just wanted to watch or be active as we're still in the beginning stages of talking about it.
Anyway. he said he found this site and that it would probably be good for both of us to talk to people and see what is really out there.
So I made the account and we'll see what it's all about.
I've never really thought about anyone else but him since we've been together. He's been an amazing husband and lover. He's very supportive and has stood by me through thick and thin.
The only concern I have about this is more with his protective nature that is also a little possessive (as am I).
I found it odd considering that he was the one that mentioned swinging so it's put me in a unique position.
On the one hand there is that little bit of excitement and on the other there is the fear that it may backfire on our relationship.
I'm sure those fears are common. Anyone have any advice? |
First let me say welcome. I agree with several others here that research is the key. If you know for sure that your relationship can stand up to anything no matter what, then you are probably strong enough to navigate swinging. Just remember this can be something pleasurable for both of you. If you decide this something you want to approach together I suggest you set some "rules". A list of things that is and isn't ok, it helps create a level of comfort when going into a new world of intimacy. If you approach it as a team, that this is something for both of you, then if can work. You have the potential to open yourselves up to a whole new level of experiences and pleasurable fun to sharre together.