There is now an HSV test available from AIM Foundation(
AIM Healthcare - Home) and some other testing sites.
Condoms don't help as well with HSV infection as with some other STD's, that makes testing more important there. The other thing you can do is to learn how to recognize what an active HSV outbreak looks like.
Saying that HSV is "no big deal" is a bit callous. For
some folks it is no big deal-for others HSV is quite painful.