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Originally Posted by cathy&neil  My wife and I have been married 8 years and she has talked (she says she was joking) about having sex with another man and even bringing him home for me to watch. I love the idea and have told her so. |
Okay, so you've told her you love the idea. Was this when she said she was joking? Has the topic come up before between you? If the topic has come up before, she may have joked about it for two reasons: 1) She thinks the idea is funny/odd/strange and is pulling your leg; or 2) She really likes the idea, but is unsure, so she "joked" about it to test your response.
If the reason is #1, you're probably best off letting go of the idea. She may never be ready If it's #2, then there is a glimmer of hope. Try mentioning the idea when you're having sex. Remind her how hot you think it would be, and what you might like to have happen. If her response is positive, then by all means, explore the idea further.
Communication is essential to success in the lifestyle (or in any marriage, for that matter), so now is the time to open those doors.
Best of luck to ya'll,
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