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Originally Posted by RedHeaded  Well, The reason I am here is mainly because my husband opened the door to swinging and I'm not sure how to take it.
We have been married for a few years and we were talking about our likes and dislikes as we try to learn more and more about each others desires and such, when he said that he has had a fantasy about me being with another man while he was there.
I'm not sure if he just wanted to watch or be active as we're still in the beginning stages of talking about it.
Anyway. he said he found this site and that it would probably be good for both of us to talk to people and see what is really out there.
So I made the account and we'll see what it's all about.
I've never really thought about anyone else but him since we've been together. He's been an amazing husband and lover. He's very supportive and has stood by me through thick and thin.
The only concern I have about this is more with his protective nature that is also a little possessive (as am I).
I found it odd considering that he was the one that mentioned swinging so it's put me in a unique position.
On the one hand there is that little bit of excitement and on the other there is the fear that it may backfire on our relationship.
I'm sure those fears are common. Anyone have any advice? |
First allow me to Say Welcome.. And Praise you for your courage to post this, there are plenty ou there that find the boards, read them and never post a thing despite having a presice question burning within them.. so on that point CONGRATULATIONS..
Does the post LOVEOHIO sound like the fantasy your husband has or is it a true 3some?
Either way, Ambush him.. plan a quiet evening that starts when he gets home.. Make the evening wild.. greet him at the door with little or nothing on.... have a great dinner nude or nearly naked.. as a promise of whats to cum.. then once you head to the bedroom.. get him flat on his back, and tease him with his fantasy.. about doing this or that.. then pull out a plastic friend.. so you and he can expereince it together first..
And see how that goes..
Now then, if you have seen any of my posts, the biggest advice I ever give is to do the hardest things.. Go and TALK in a NON BED setting about this.. how you felt , how he feels..
Now one final point.. If this ISNT for you.. DON'T do ANYTHING .. Never allow yourself to be involved with ANYTHING just to please a partner..