The Swingers Board - View Single Post - My wife is so close to saying "yes" to swinging

realcplub2 · 07-01-2008, 08:54 AM

Excellent Advice folks..

Let me add just a few points.. Are you looking for a 3some, or do you want to watch her? this is a very important point.. As far as Attitudes point about figuring out if its a joke.. Its very true, however WE dont know your wife, and what she is LIKELY to say..

Proposing a threesome as Minstral suggests is an excellent way to go, with one or two additions.. Add some toys to your private play, and allow yourselves to experience the sensations of 2 "guys" at the same time while still just the 2 of you.. the other point is, at some point in a NON BED situation sitting down and talking about it, well after all of this has been experimented with in bed with just you 2..

My final point is this.. There is NO RUSH.. would it be great to talk about it and this weekend spend the 4th putting different skyrockets in the air, sure..

BUT..

If you RUSH, and afterwards she feels it was a mistake, isnt sure of how YOU look at her, or WHATEVER.. you would have paid a high price for a wild night.. its much better to GO SLOW and make sure she is well assured of HOW YOU FEEL.. and that HER FEELINGS or DESIRES are perfectly normal and ACCEPTABLE to YOU..

Like Minstral said and I can't stress enough.. Make sure she understands you are into this as much as she is.. and that whatever happens you will still be there at the end of it all..

Or as we tend to say.. At the end of the night its still you and her and She's coming home with you..

07-01-2008, 08:54 AM	#5 (permalink)
realcplub2 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 352 Location: North Central Florida Status: Couple SLS Name:putnamcocpl Blog Entries: 17	Re: My wife is so close to saying "yes" to swinging Excellent Advice folks.. Let me add just a few points.. Are you looking for a 3some, or do you want to watch her? this is a very important point.. As far as Attitudes point about figuring out if its a joke.. Its very true, however WE dont know your wife, and what she is LIKELY to say.. Proposing a threesome as Minstral suggests is an excellent way to go, with one or two additions.. Add some toys to your private play, and allow yourselves to experience the sensations of 2 "guys" at the same time while still just the 2 of you.. the other point is, at some point in a NON BED situation sitting down and talking about it, well after all of this has been experimented with in bed with just you 2.. My final point is this.. There is NO RUSH.. would it be great to talk about it and this weekend spend the 4th putting different skyrockets in the air, sure.. BUT.. If you RUSH, and afterwards she feels it was a mistake, isnt sure of how YOU look at her, or WHATEVER.. you would have paid a high price for a wild night.. its much better to GO SLOW and make sure she is well assured of HOW YOU FEEL.. and that HER FEELINGS or DESIRES are perfectly normal and ACCEPTABLE to YOU.. Like Minstral said and I can't stress enough.. Make sure she understands you are into this as much as she is.. and that whatever happens you will still be there at the end of it all.. Or as we tend to say.. At the end of the night its still you and her and She's coming home with you..