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Originally Posted by Nitati 
While we realize we can't always control it, we'd just really prefer to not have a "bad" first experience with this. I didn't think that was such a bad thing to want?
I know for a fact that the reality almost never lives up to the fantasy, but does that mean it shouldn't even come close? That's the main reason I started this thread...
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It's not a bad thing to want at all. But, I think you also need to realize that while this couple may be the perfect ones to play with the first time ON PAPER, the reality may be nowhere near that. Same with the single male.
For example, there was a couple that we flirted with for over a year. Drew was really into her, I was really into him. They were good looking, it seemed like we had a lot in common...a perfect match. Finally, they had a free evening and we planned a play date. Well, when we finally played, it bit. It blew. It sucked. It wasn't our worst swingng experience, but it was certainly memorable, and not in a good way.
I wasn't implying that you guys should start indescriminately grabbing people off the dance floor at the club or that you need to swing. I was telling you that while it's a good idea to move at your own pace, and to make sure you're comfortable, you can neither plan nor predict how an experience is going to turn out. I've learned to have no or low expectations for any play experience. Typically, when we've created these high expectations, it falls way short. When we're not really expecting it, though, we've had some fabulous times.
Of course, you can (and will) do whatever you wish. Good luck in whatever you decide!
Pepper