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cataryna · 06-30-2008, 10:17 PM

My current piece of advice.

What should you expect on your first visit to a club, party, or meet and greet?

ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!

If you go to an event thinking you're going to hook up, then odds are you will probably leave disappointed and disenchanted. Additionally, if you go to an event thinking "I BETTER hook up" odds are you will probably leave disappointed, disenchanted and with this particular entitlement attitude, even a bit angry. This entitlement attitude is often in relation to the amount of money spent on an event, from the clothes you buy to the membership fee and/or door charge. Swinging is not necessarily a cheap lifestyle. The entitlement attitude is very easily read by seasoned swingers and is a huge turnoff. So remember...just cuz you paid to get in the door, that doesn't mean you're gonna get into the pants.

I constantly tell newbie couples that they should go into this with no expectations other than to have a good time with eachother. Remember that you're doing this together as a couple, so your first priority is to eachother. Anything or anybody extra is to be considered a bonus.

Ohh and one last thing not to expect. Do not expect that just because someone talks to you that it means they want to have sex with you. We're not all sex crazed maniacs LOL Some of us are just friendly like that.

06-30-2008, 10:17 PM	#10 (permalink)
cataryna Manimal's Cat Join Date: Mar 2007 Posts: 40 Location: New Orleans Area, Louisiana Status: Couple SLS Name:Cataryna	Re: What is the most important thing you've learned? My current piece of advice. What should you expect on your first visit to a club, party, or meet and greet? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! If you go to an event thinking you're going to hook up, then odds are you will probably leave disappointed and disenchanted. Additionally, if you go to an event thinking "I BETTER hook up" odds are you will probably leave disappointed, disenchanted and with this particular entitlement attitude, even a bit angry. This entitlement attitude is often in relation to the amount of money spent on an event, from the clothes you buy to the membership fee and/or door charge. Swinging is not necessarily a cheap lifestyle. The entitlement attitude is very easily read by seasoned swingers and is a huge turnoff. So remember...just cuz you paid to get in the door, that doesn't mean you're gonna get into the pants. I constantly tell newbie couples that they should go into this with no expectations other than to have a good time with eachother. Remember that you're doing this together as a couple, so your first priority is to eachother. Anything or anybody extra is to be considered a bonus. Ohh and one last thing not to expect. Do not expect that just because someone talks to you that it means they want to have sex with you. We're not all sex crazed maniacs LOL Some of us are just friendly like that. __________________ Have you taken the 2008 Swinger Survey yet?