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Originally Posted by theCHERRYSs  - What is it about another persons (or couples) body that attracts you both?
- If you met someone or a couple who matched your requirements for body and mind but their soul was shot to hell, would that be a deal breaker for ya?
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Well, I'll speak for myself and let Mr. O answer on his own if he chooses (though, we are pretty similar here). Pre-apology for the long response...but by now, you all are probably learning we are a rather wordy pair.
For men...I'm into a wide variety - I, however, do not really like men to be shorter than me or thinner than me (doesn't mean I'd turn 'em away, though, if other elements were working for me). If they look like I can break them, I'm not interested. My fantasy men are broad shouldered and healthy/fit, but not overly large or cut; and I've always been into Latin men. But, fantasies are not always reality, and in reality I'm attracted to a lot of men for many reasons. Oddly, red-headed men don't tend to appeal to me, though red-headed women do...hmm...go figure. Blue eyes also make me weak. I'm not against older "silver foxes" and I'm not necessarily looking for a perfect physique. I just look for a little pride, some sexy self-confidence, and some ellusive, alluring, sometimes hard to pin-point detail that grabs my attention (i.e. sexy calves...beatiful hands...a chiseled jawline...a well-shaped bald head...a tattoo...an interesting sense of style...etc.) It's so hard to define, because it often what some may call a "fault" in appearance that I am drawn to...a scar, an "oddly" shaped nose, an asymetrical feature.
I like my women like I like my fruit: not too soft, but not too firm, plump and succulent, ripe and juicy, healthy and subtley fragrant (skinny women just aren't hot to me). Brunettes preferred (though I could go any way). Blue or green eyes. I think the hubby and I have a similar vision of women we both like, though he is pretty appreciative of most women in most forms (ha ha!). In fact, we found ourselves considering our waitress the other night. He seemed pretty impressed, but she was tall and (too) thin in my opinion, and even though she had a beautiful face, it just wasn't doing it for me. I'm a big fan of the Vargas girls - '40s pin-ups always seem to be so soft and lovely). But, once again...it's the unique features that draw me in. I'm not drawn to the "cookie-cutter" type girls...especially the ones whom I know won't look like that in the morning.
As for the mind, body, soul thing: Well, appearance is what draws a person in. Hate to say it or admit it, but looks DO matter. If you look sloppy, flabby, or disheveled, is says something about you as a person and I'm not going to be attracted (this goes for the background in your picture, as well - messy houses, Star Wars posters tacked crookedly on the wall behind your naked butt, and too much clutter are icky). The mind?- well, intelligence is hot. If I start talking/writing to person and they tell dumb/sexist/racist jokes, know nothing about the world, or giggle stupidly whenever I say something, it's going to turn me off immediately. And soul? Well, if you're lacking it, don't come knocking. Though it's a tough thing to define, to me soul is what makes you a good person (a relative term, I know), but a good person is more likely to be an honest lover/partner. That's important here.
Hubby and I have a "no playing on the first date" thing going and are currently "soft swing" only. So, we are taking our time getting to know people before we play. When we peruse profiles, we are drawn in by the photos (G-rated preferred), then we skim to see how long the profile is. If it's too short, we don't even read it. If it's long...we dive in. We want our couples to have something to say, to make us laugh, and pique our interest. We try to do the same! We are a package deal, but we are "packages" unto ourselves, as well. People are little gifts...some we treasure...some are fun for a short time...others we immediately return or exchange. I like presents with allure, meaning (not necessarily deep), function, simplicity, and form - in that order.
Mrs. Oly