K&J, We honestly hope your doing O.k. first and above everything els.
Anyone, and I mean anyone good, in this lifestyle. Would understand exactly what your feeling. You have taken a step that you both wanted perhaps, to find something out about yourselves. Your not here now knowing what you know condemning the lifestyle. Its we who owe you gratitude for at least looking into something we have in our lives.
You owe no one nothing, as far as any kind of explanation. This is still about the both of you together as a couple. Yes, its time to take a break, or walk away for good.
Take this time for each other, don't worry about what anyone on sls, the clubs, or anywhere els will think. Anyone good, that sees either you need a break or are walking away will only hope and wish you both, everything positive as a couple.
I'm not sure what your membership is on sls but you only need to say on your profile you are taking a break for personal reasons nothing more. Good people understand that.
I know we see people dismantle their profiles with TAKING A BREAK TAKING A BREAK OUT OF THE LIFESTYLE over and over and over.Honestly, We just wonder if they are o.k., thats all. But we hear how that looks like drama ensued.
I don't know if it would help any, but we have been there. Not once, but twice.
First time, we left our profile the same with the header line stating, Taking A break for personal time. We really needed it.. That left us getting mail asking what happened at a time we didn't feel we could or needed to explain. Some were genuine, some were drama seekers.
Second time, We just didn't want to pursue new people or receive mail at a busy time.. We just used the invisible mode. It's in the tools menu on sls under privacy options/ then privacy feature. There you can select to be invisible to free members, couples, single females and single males. Make sure you check them all. That will take a few hours to go through but you will know when you use the See who's on feature. It just shows as this couple has chosen to be invisible. That should give you some time to think, change what needs changed or contact sls to have your membership removed.
Take that break ! And take that time for each other now, We can only wish you both the very best
Should things change or you just want to talk.... we are here. Hopefully you still visit the Swingers Board.