Thanks so much for the replies so far! Everything each of you said has made absolute sense... but that's also where so much frustration comes from. We've been to our local club several times throughout the past couple years and have seriously never found a couple we're actually attracted to. The people who frequent the club are amazing... and while they are attractive, none of them have really piqued our sexual interest. Neither of us is going to "take one for the team" but seriously, I am beginning to think perhaps we're being too particular about what we're looking for?
That feels strange to say though because there are plenty of physically attractive couples locally, but they're just not what we're sexually attracted to... In fact, at our local club I've seen one man that I actually wanted sexually, and the hubby & I were both mutually attracted to one female, but that's it.. two people in nearly two years! And in both cases, they were *VERY* occupied and not in a position to really have an actual conversation with us at the time lol (which we totally didn't mind, of course... just watching in appreciation has proven to be tons of fun). But I guess my patience is wearing a bit thin because we want to be one of the couples actually playing too, so hence the trying to jump the gun...
You are all right about the physical attraction thing though, I just hadn't thought about it in perspective: through the club we've met many interesting, genuine people... but the sex just hasn't happened b/c there hasn't really been a "spark". Maybe we should just talk to some of the people we've already met a bit more? I don't know. I think now I'm at even more of a loss than before LOL. But yes, maybe we need to keep trying at our local club, or venture to a different club a little farther away and see what they have to offer. In the mean time, I'll try not to start pulling out my hair LOL!!!