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Here are just some random thoughts.

- a single male will be a simpler process since all that needs to take place is for you and him to have an attraction and for your husband to be comfortable enough with the situation to follow through. When you add another female into the mix now you have to have four people with an attraction and comfort level. The more people that are added the complexity increases exponentially and the chances of actually playing to any degree decreases.

- I don't see any unusual red flags with a single male just because he is divorced and had some experiences with his ex. That is quite common actually. Just keep in mind that the vast vast majority of single males on websites are wierdos, losers, wannabes, dreamers, cheaters etc and a huge percentage of them are really just fantasizing and talking big and will promise you the world and tell you what you want to hear and then never show up when you set a date.

- don't underestimate or downplay the importance of physical attraction. The fact that your husband is concerned with "settling" is a big red flag. Usually it's the male half of a couple that is chomping at the bit to get together and make it happen and they have a huge strike zone as far as physical attraction goes. If he is having reservations based on attraction that is a big warning that this may not be the right couple. Do not do something just to be doing it and to "get 'er done." If things aren't right don't do it just because you are getting inpatient for something to happen. You are doing both them and yourself a huge disservice if you go through with it just to get your cherry popped rather than because there is a sincere interest and attraction.

- Honestly I think your best chances are in either sticking with the club or if it is a small club with a small clientele then maybe looking for another club. If there is a club that allows single males then finding an mfm opportunity would be like finding sand at the beach.