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Originally Posted by N&G 
I think it is common courtesy to send an email regardless of whether you want to meet again or not.
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I agree. I look at it this way, if I had a social event with vanilla people I'd send a thank you note after the occasion, so that's how I handle swinging with people.
Unless things went really bad during your time together and closure was made at that time, always send an e-mail the next day.
Since you are not interested in playing with them again, I'd simply send a note that said "thanks for meeting last night" (word it how you wish) but I would
not say anything about being incompatible. There isn't a need unless they write back wanting to play again. Then you can drop the "rejection bomb."
Who knows, they may have no interest in playing with you again either. So it may be a wash and you'll both go on your way, never bringing up meeting again. At least if neither of you has to reject the other you can at least be friendly if you run into each other somewhere without knowing someone has rejected the other.
A "fade away" rejection is easier to handle all around.
LM