So the hubby & I have been discussing swinging and both actively & passively seeking another male or couple to have our first experience with for going on 2 years now. Needless to say, we're sick of talking and ready for action!
We've gone to a local on-premise club that we love several times, but have never found anyone there that truly sparked our interest.
Suddenly, within the past week we have been contacted by a couple and a single male that might just work. But of course, there's a catch with both options. The first thing about the couple & single male is that they're all roughly 20 yrs older than we are... we don't think that should be a problem, but since we're completely inexperienced (even after all this time), is the age difference something we should take into consideration? Here's the info on them...
The Couple:
The couple seems genuinely nice, experienced, respectful, and from what we've seen in our 2 years of research they'd be the PERFECT couple to lose our swinging "virginity" to... yet neither of us finds either of them physically attractive! Now they aren't unattractive by any means... they're decent lookin' folks! Just physically they're not exactly what we were seeking, and honestly had no idea they'd be attracted to us! However, personality wise, they are exactly the kind of couple we have been searching for... and we just don't know what to do! The hubby is concerned b/c he doesn't want to "settle"... yet I am torn b/c we're both also firm believers that personality is the most important factor that can make or break the situation.
The Single Male:
He was married, but is currently single & claims to have had & shared mfm fantasies with his wife, but they never took it beyond that. (Please let us know if that's a red-flag issue! We don't have experience with single males!) All our email interaction has been positive. He's been very polite and respectful, and is eager to know what our fantasy-come-true looks like, and what all we'd like to have happen should we choose him for our first MFM encounter. I am definitely attracted to him physically, and wasn't sure I would be since the emails started before we ever exchanged pics. I'm trying to figure out what kinds of specifics I need to give him, questions I need to ask him to see how things progress, so help there would be appreciated as well.
So... who do we choose? How do we choose? If it helps, there are other couples out there we'd probably like to play with eventually, but we've been really picky about our *first* encounter, since we want it to be memorable in a positive light, hopefully the first of many
Though I must admit I haven't really come across any other single males that I've been too interested in at all. And we mainly started all this b/c we both have a MFM fantasy lol. Decisions... decisions... HELP!!! LOL