The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Who does not go to lifestyle clubs and why?

twohots4u2 · 06-29-2008, 10:24 PM

1. Do you not go to clubs because you had a previous bad experience?
We got our start swinging in an on-premises club in New York City. For the first several years most of our play was in swing clubs. However, we got tired of the greet, meet, grope, suck, fuck, and go type of play we often encountered. We are seeking singles and couples for play, but have only found a few that we have swung with. Now we are beginning to feel that we are seeking too much when we meet folks outside of the clubs. In the clubs, we were not as demanding of compatibility and chemistry, and had a lot of fun with the folks we met there.

2. Do you not go because you have had good success through other means and just have not had any reason to go? We have been seeking to find swing friends outside the club.

3. Are you or your partner intimidated or afraid to to go to a club? No.

4. Do you think that clubs are just for the "hardcores" or that you do not think you are a "real swinger" and do not belong in a club? Clubs are a great way to get started. No pressure, no rejection problems, if you are not attracted, move on. Also, different clubs have different atmospheres. Some clubs felt very cliquish, others were open and friendly. Some were mostly folks who were younger than us, others seemed to welcome people of all ages, types, etc.

5. Are you not a "bar person" and don't like the smoke, noise, competition, chaos etc etc? We will not go to a club where smoking is allowed. Also, if it is too crowded it is hard to find a place to play. Too many single men chasing us around can be unenjoyable. It depends on the club and their rules.

6. Are you someone that does not like crowds or feel that a club scene is not personal or intimate enough? We would rather find long term friends that we can be personal with, but have not been very successful in that area.

06-29-2008, 10:24 PM	#21 (permalink)
twohots4u2 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 153 Location: Arlington, VA Status: Couple SLS Name:twohots4u2	Re: Who does not go to lifestyle clubs and why? 1. Do you not go to clubs because you had a previous bad experience? We got our start swinging in an on-premises club in New York City. For the first several years most of our play was in swing clubs. However, we got tired of the greet, meet, grope, suck, fuck, and go type of play we often encountered. We are seeking singles and couples for play, but have only found a few that we have swung with. Now we are beginning to feel that we are seeking too much when we meet folks outside of the clubs. In the clubs, we were not as demanding of compatibility and chemistry, and had a lot of fun with the folks we met there. 2. Do you not go because you have had good success through other means and just have not had any reason to go? We have been seeking to find swing friends outside the club. 3. Are you or your partner intimidated or afraid to to go to a club? No. 4. Do you think that clubs are just for the "hardcores" or that you do not think you are a "real swinger" and do not belong in a club? Clubs are a great way to get started. No pressure, no rejection problems, if you are not attracted, move on. Also, different clubs have different atmospheres. Some clubs felt very cliquish, others were open and friendly. Some were mostly folks who were younger than us, others seemed to welcome people of all ages, types, etc. 5. Are you not a "bar person" and don't like the smoke, noise, competition, chaos etc etc? We will not go to a club where smoking is allowed. Also, if it is too crowded it is hard to find a place to play. Too many single men chasing us around can be unenjoyable. It depends on the club and their rules. 6. Are you someone that does not like crowds or feel that a club scene is not personal or intimate enough? We would rather find long term friends that we can be personal with, but have not been very successful in that area.