The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Who does not go to lifestyle clubs and why?

tittietwister · 06-29-2008, 07:12 PM

We felt for so long that clubs weren't for us because we don't like crowds, aren't extroverts, like to get to know people first, hate loud noise, thought clubs were slimy, etc. We finally went to one in Washington DC and had most our fears confirmed. Then we went to one in PA and came away very favorably impressed but did not play. Have returned on several occassions and had a great time and played each time.

For us, the club we found is far superior to house parties in that there is really no pressure to play. Sorry folks, but we will debate until we run out of air that there is no pressure to play at house parties. And that pressure frequently results in a natural selection process that we abhor. For us a house party would only be a viable option now if we knew and liked most of the people on the guest list. For the most part though, we get invitations to parties where we know maybe one couple - that isn't enough for us to feel comfortable.

We also use "our club" as a venue to meet new people as well as meet fellow club goers we now count as friends. If it doesn't work out there are so many other options including just having a nice vertical time dancing and talking.

The name of "our club" is the The Cottage near Gettysburg PA. You meet the nicest people at The Cottage. Hope to see some Swinger's Board people there.

06-29-2008, 07:12 PM	#20 (permalink)
tittietwister Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 143 Location: Not at Swingers Board Status: Couple	Re: Who does not go to lifestyle clubs and why? We felt for so long that clubs weren't for us because we don't like crowds, aren't extroverts, like to get to know people first, hate loud noise, thought clubs were slimy, etc. We finally went to one in Washington DC and had most our fears confirmed. Then we went to one in PA and came away very favorably impressed but did not play. Have returned on several occassions and had a great time and played each time. For us, the club we found is far superior to house parties in that there is really no pressure to play. Sorry folks, but we will debate until we run out of air that there is no pressure to play at house parties. And that pressure frequently results in a natural selection process that we abhor. For us a house party would only be a viable option now if we knew and liked most of the people on the guest list. For the most part though, we get invitations to parties where we know maybe one couple - that isn't enough for us to feel comfortable. We also use "our club" as a venue to meet new people as well as meet fellow club goers we now count as friends. If it doesn't work out there are so many other options including just having a nice vertical time dancing and talking. The name of "our club" is the The Cottage near Gettysburg PA. You meet the nicest people at The Cottage. Hope to see some Swinger's Board people there.