[cocpl2007]

Maybe I should start it off with a couple specific questions to get the ball rolling.

1. Do you not go to clubs because you had a previous bad experience?

No. We don’t go to clubs because we just are not clubbers. Some folks really enjoy the interaction and showmanship of being out in a club atmosphere. Really you can be anything, and anybody you desire. In our experience that is often more the rule than the exception. Real folks - we have not frequented clubs enough to meet some. There are couples who thrive in the club atmosphere, we just happen to be the opposite of that couple.


2. Do you not go because you have had good success through other means and just have not had any reason to go?

We don’t go because we both know ourselves. Never have we ever met people who have become “friends” at a bar or club. Swinging or not. It is loud, crowded and has an energy of exhibitionism only snippets of conversation are possible. If you are turned on by physical appearance and popularity a club is a great place to show your wares and entice others. We need to know more about you as a person, than is possible to learn in a club atmosphere.


3. Are you or your partner intimidated or afraid to to go to a club?

We are not intimidated. We are not afraid. We simply are not “flock” people.

4. Do you think that clubs are just for the "hardcores" or that you do not think you are a "real swinger" and do not belong in a club?

Labels, labels, labels! If the term “swinger” applies to someone who has sex with people they don’t know, then we are far from “swingers.” If it simply applies to someone who has sex, or plays sexually with someone outside of their primary relationship, then we qualify. Never (which includes our time before we met each other) in our lives have we met someone for the very first time in a bar or club and engaged in sexual play. As a couple, it is beyond our desire.

5. Are you not a "bar person" and don't like the smoke, noise, competition, chaos etc etc?

That is certainly not our favorite gathering place

6. Are you someone that does not like crowds or feel that a club scene is not personal or intimate enough?

At this juncture we are in this community to meet other couples who are interested in friendship and frolic. Not being clubbers, or bar-types we do not anticipate those who enjoy that atmosphere would be attracted to us for either.


While sex is a physical act, our sexuality is very much a part of our being. Neither of us are the type of person who has superficial relationships, if someone is a friend, they know it, we know it. We know each others’ names, and a bit about who that person is. In a club atmosphere we are unable to make ourselves shut off our consciousness to accept what and who is at the club based upon only what we see and snippets of “cool” conversation.