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Originally Posted by shags  Thanks for all the replies. Sounds like an on-premise club would be the way to go, although that presents some logistical challenges on its own, as I'm not aware of any nearby.
The sentiment that it is harder if you're soft swap is interesting. You would think that there'd be fewer people at the "extreme" and progressively more people the more vanilla you get. Either that's the case (and what makes people want to stay soft swap also makes them harder to find), or it's full swap that's more prevalent and it is actually the soft swappers who are farther from vanilla!
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For most, swinging still involves actual swapping... or at least soft-swapping (swapping for all but intercourse). You might actually have more luck finding others who want to watch and be watched in the vanilla world (friends you know, etc). Folks who are more vanilla may be open to such without any thought that of it being swinging (and to most it barely qualifies as soft-swing), therefore those who get to the point where they consider themselves swingers and go looking for others are more likely to be interested in actually participating with others.
We started out with just going to on-premise clubs and playing with each other, but it was with the knowledge that we hoped to get more comfortable to the point of wanting to actually involve others and eventually we did just that.