The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Who does not go to lifestyle clubs and why?

iapr · 06-27-2008, 11:10 PM

Thanks for the great insights and info so far, I hope it keeps coming. I'll add some of my thoughts on the matter as well and I while I am an advocate of the clubs, at the end of the day I am just a garden variety swinger who's main interest is in having a fun and safe and comfortable time.

I often advocate clubs as a good place for people to MEET other people however I will concede that they are often not a great place to get to KNOW other people as someone has already mentioned. At times clubs can be loud and busy and there is so much going on it can be very distracting. Clubs can also be fairly competitive at times as well and you can be in the middle of a conversation with someone and someone else can come along and barge in and distract everyone.

It was mentioned above and I will also concede that in the case of off-premise clubs there can be a heck of a lot more dancing and flirting and socializing as opposed to playing. We fall into that catagory a lot ourselves in that when we go to our local off-premise club we go home without playing probably 75-90% of the time and we are probably some of the most socially active people there.

What the club does do for us is gives us a chance to meet a variety of people in an environment that is sexualized and exciting but yet somewhat insulated from any direct expectation to play. That gives us a chance to see if we are attracted to people and see if there is any chemistry and if the answer is yes there is a nearby hotel we could head to and if the answer is no then we just keep on partying and socializing and don't have to worry about being propositioned right then and there.

The club also gives us a good means of filtering out some of the questionable emails we get to our profile. If we get an email from someone we aren't sure if we want to devote an evening to meeting privately or not we can say that we plan on being at the club at such-and-such a date and if they go we can meet them there. Many times we never hear from them again and sometimes we meet and there is no interest and no harm done or time wasted and other times we have hit it off and good time was had by all.

Thanks for the responses so far. Please keep the discussions coming in. It has been an interesting thread so far.

06-27-2008, 11:10 PM	#8 (permalink)
iapr Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 609 Location: State of bliss Status: couple	Re: Who does not go to lifestyle clubs and why? Thanks for the great insights and info so far, I hope it keeps coming. I'll add some of my thoughts on the matter as well and I while I am an advocate of the clubs, at the end of the day I am just a garden variety swinger who's main interest is in having a fun and safe and comfortable time. I often advocate clubs as a good place for people to MEET other people however I will concede that they are often not a great place to get to KNOW other people as someone has already mentioned. At times clubs can be loud and busy and there is so much going on it can be very distracting. Clubs can also be fairly competitive at times as well and you can be in the middle of a conversation with someone and someone else can come along and barge in and distract everyone. It was mentioned above and I will also concede that in the case of off-premise clubs there can be a heck of a lot more dancing and flirting and socializing as opposed to playing. We fall into that catagory a lot ourselves in that when we go to our local off-premise club we go home without playing probably 75-90% of the time and we are probably some of the most socially active people there. What the club does do for us is gives us a chance to meet a variety of people in an environment that is sexualized and exciting but yet somewhat insulated from any direct expectation to play. That gives us a chance to see if we are attracted to people and see if there is any chemistry and if the answer is yes there is a nearby hotel we could head to and if the answer is no then we just keep on partying and socializing and don't have to worry about being propositioned right then and there. The club also gives us a good means of filtering out some of the questionable emails we get to our profile. If we get an email from someone we aren't sure if we want to devote an evening to meeting privately or not we can say that we plan on being at the club at such-and-such a date and if they go we can meet them there. Many times we never hear from them again and sometimes we meet and there is no interest and no harm done or time wasted and other times we have hit it off and good time was had by all. Thanks for the responses so far. Please keep the discussions coming in. It has been an interesting thread so far.