[LikeMinds321]

We meet people both ways, but meeting privately has always been most successful for us.

Clubs can be fun, lively, lots of opportunity to flirt with different people and see new faces, but the clubs have rarely produced a play night for us unless we go to a club with a couple we've privately arranged beforehand to meet there, just to start the evening off. In those cases we all know we're playing with each other by the end of the night.

Around here we only have off-premise clubs and there doesn't seem to be a lot of hooking-up going on, at least that's what the buzz is. We find the clubs are geared toward a social night out for us more than a night to get lucky. The clubs are noisy so it's hard to talk, lots of interruptions so you can't keep a conversation focused, and for us it's more difficult to get intimate when we're yelling to hear each other and sardined in the place. Even what we discuss has to be monitored because people are so close that they would hear things we don't want to share with anyone but the people we are talking to, so it hinders our conversations.

We like private meets and have great success that way. We can choose a much nicer place to meet than what the local clubs offer, we have privacy, can talk about anything, can focus on the people we're with because no one is barging in to break up our conversation. We just do better one on one away from the clubs.

LM