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Originally Posted by iapr

3. Are you or your partner intimidated or afraid to to go to a club?

Yes, I have to admit the idea is pretty scary to us. First of all, there is the danger of being "outed" Mr. WL is pretty well known in his field, and there is a good chance of him being recognized by someone who we don't know. There are some union/political reasons why some competitors would use this info to create a scandal that could harm his business and career. We realize this is unlikely, but the potential risk is significant enough to cause us to worry.
On a more personal level, I'm a bit reserved in public, and have a few body image issues. Having never been to a club, I don't know how comfortable I would feel in that environment.

Originally Posted by iapr

4. Do you think that clubs are just for the "hardcores" or that you do not think you are a "real swinger" and do not belong in a club?

I Do realize that we could go to a club and just watch, or just play with each other, but we entered the Lifestyle for the purpose of swapping, so that kind of defeats the purpose doesn't it? But I'm not sure I'm ready for sex with strangers. Not sure the club environment is all that conducive to getting to know someone well enough to feel comfortable getting intimate with them.

Originally Posted by iapr

6. Are you someone that does not like crowds or feel that a club scene is not personal or intimate enough?

See answer to #4.
I like the idea of having a group of lifestyle people all together, to circumvent the whole "dating" process, but I worry that the club scene is just not my style. We are attending an off-premise dance in a few weeks, and hopefully that will be a happy medium for us.




Our main reason for not going to our only local club is that it has a terrible reputation. We have heard from several people that it is seedy, run-down and frequented by people, (mainly single guys) that apparently don't know the meaning of the word "NO".
Having said all of the above, I am curious, and would probably overcome all of our objections if we had a nice, well run club close by to visit at least once. We are considering visiting a club that is a few hours away, but it is too far away to be a regular thing.