[2insandiego4u]

It sounds to us like there might simply be a sexual mismatch here. He likes to have sex a lot more often than her. We've been together for over 20 years and have only been in the lifestyle a few months. The first few years we were together we could not get enough of each other. She never said no! We don't think the lifestyle is a good substitute for a sexual mismatch. You have to decide how important this is and accept it, or move on and find someone more sexually compatible. You could try to be more romantic, more helpful around the house - we have awesome sex every time he cleans the bathroom for her! Find her buttons in and out of the bedroom, and press them! Good luck.