Great post generally!
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Originally Posted by fun4Ds  You are not alone, all successful swingers that I have ever met place our partners and our own relationships above and beyond everything and everyone in life. |
What a powerful observation!
I think all successful swingers are, or were, afraid of losing what they had together as they considered the possibilities of moving forward. We certainly did. It seems to me that the couples who fail are the ones who move forward into non-monogamy without giving serious thought to the possible ramifications to their primary relationship. Successful swingers generally claim that breaking the taboo of monogamy enhances their intimacy. Again, this has certainly been the case for us. But, we concede that non-monogamous behavior simply is not for everyone. You have to get past the concept that you own the sexual self of your partner. You have to embrace the possibility that you and your partner can derive pleasure
within your primary relationship from sharing sexual experiences with others (according to whatever boundries you mutually set).