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Originally Posted by RedHeaded

Well, The reason I am here is mainly because my husband opened the door to swinging and I'm not sure how to take it.

Let me be the first to tell you, this lifestyle is to be taken seriously. There are many who live honestly, for a better understanding about our partners and ourselves as individuals. For those that it works for (not all, but many) we all needed to know one thing in the beginning. We take a look at this through the door that we have the power of choice.

We have been married for a few years and we were talking about our likes and dislikes as we try to learn more and more about each others desires and such, when he said that he has had a fantasy about me being with another man while he was there.
I'm not sure if he just wanted to watch or be active as we're still in the beginning stages of talking about it.

Thats where it begins, just talking. If it goes no further, you find out things about each other that as far as most vanilla couples go, are kept in a secret box. I personally would rather my partner know my secret desires and still love me for who I am. Things that can't be held against me, if I'm honest. Nothing has to happen any more than what our partners can share, and handle.

Anyway. he said he found this site and that it would probably be good for both of us to talk to people and see what is really out there.
So I made the account and we'll see what it's all about.

Now this is where I would like to, Welcome You To The Swingers Board Join in with any questions anytime. We share allot here.

No one here will bullshit you in any way, or tell you what we think you need to hear just for sex, at any time. We are honest about some things in our lives that we might share. Some things are inevitable, some things are just what we feel are good advice. Some things are for safety. Most here have seen or had bad outcomes, as well as positive experiences. It comes from not only our own experience, but what we too, have learned from others.

I've never really thought about anyone else but him since we've been together. He's been an amazing husband and lover. He's very supportive and has stood by me through thick and thin.
The only concern I have about this is more with his protective nature that is also a little possessive (as am I).

You are not alone, all successful swingers that I have ever met, place our partners and our own relationships above and beyond everything and everyone in life. We are not all open to everything. Thats why we have boundaries, limits and rules.

I found it odd considering that he was the one that mentioned swinging so it's put me in a unique position.
On the one hand there is that little bit of excitement and on the other there is the fear that it may backfire on our relationship.

I wont lie to ya, its not for everyone. Having a sound mind about sex and our own relationships is key to success or failure. Never take the next step without knowing that. Talk and listen before doing anything.

I'm sure those fears are common. Anyone have any advice?

Your fears are shared by all who walk through the doors of the swinging lifestyle. I'll let you see and hear from others here. My ideas may differ from many here but so far..... I get along with the people I have had sex with... Its called being compatable.... Thats what you will always see.... we are not all compatible. We still share something called swinging .