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Originally Posted by RedHeaded 
...he said that he has had a fantasy about me being with another man while he was there.
I'm not sure if he just wanted to watch or be active as we're still in the beginning stages of talking about it.
Anyway. he said he found this site and that it would probably be good for both of us to talk to people and see what is really out there.
So I made the account and we'll see what it's all about.
The only concern I have about this is more with his protective nature that is also a little possessive (as am I).
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Hi RedHeaded, welcome to the Board.
It's possible that for your husband, seeing you with another man is only a fantasy that he'll never want to make a reality. He is wise to consider swinging thoroughly before giving it a try. I'm glad to hear that he told you he's been doing research and found this Board and asked you to check it out. You can both learn a lot here.
Have you mentioned to him what you said above (in bold) about both of you being protective/possessive by nature? I think that needs to be discussed, especially since sharing you with another man is a big step. He is talking about another person being with the two of you - not some "thing" that can appear for your pleasure and then poof, he's gone. Personalities have to click, you have to like and trust each other and respect the other man's parameters as well. Human dynamics play a big role in swinging.
There is lots of great information on the Board and many people here to help you both with your questions. It's not unusual to feel excited about the possibility of swinging, and have concerns at the same time.
LM