[Drknow]

I am probably not the one to talk here as I am only curious about the lifestyle myself. But having been a dilligent student for a few years I can say that you are going about this the right way. Information is the best way to go, learn as much as you can and determine if this is right for y'all. The key in this lifestlye is that one has to be able to separate sex and love and that is very foreign to our normal way of viewing things. My wife will probably never see this as a possibility, so we will probably never have the oppurtunity to swing. I have always been fascinated by swinging and found it very exciting. The couples who can swing and it adds to their lives rather than adding to the demise of their marriage are the ones who have good marriages to begin with and communicate well. If you are not there don't go any further. If you cannot see sex appart from love then it is not for you. If you think that you could one day see it as something you engage in like you would a game of mixed doubles tennis then this is for you. It seems to really enhance some marriages and excellerate the collapse of others. I say excellerate because I think those marriages all had serious problems to begin with. I am very envious of the swingers here, but the nearest I will ever most likely come to participating in it is chatting with others about it. My wife has moral hangups that would never allow her to go there, and I value our marriage more than my pleasure. If you think you might be able to enjoy this, then more power to you.