 Re: Definitions
These are all good explanations. I might add that in our experience there seems to be a huge difference of opinion, and sometimes fear and intolerance between swingers and polyamorists. Many swingers we know recoil in fear and jealousy when you mention feelings developing with swing partners. And many polyamorists we know are very adamant about not being lumped into the swinger definition and are very intolerant of swingers, publicly proclaiming them "nasty" or "dirty" or "without morals" such as many vanillas do. However, I can count on my fingers and toes the number of couples my wife and I know that use polyamory as moral justification to swing, and what they practice is far from true polyamory. But because they proclaim to have "feelings" for the other person it makes it all okay. However their idea of polyamory is really serial open relationships, they very seldom stay with any one third for very long. The true polyamorists in the community accept them, but don't take them too seriously.
This is why when we developed the Poly form here on this board we had to be very careful of the wording involved - basically so we didn't piss-off some of both groups.
Mr. WS
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