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Ripley & Ender · 06-23-2008, 10:48 AM

Disclaimer:[QUOTE]Everyone is different. This is what works right now for my marriage. We have limited experience. YMMV, etc.[/QUOTE

How did we broach it? Well, we were talking about swinging and how both of us like to be close to people emotionally. I don't know if was officially broached or if it just veered around until the subject was reached and opened. Yes, we've had other people who weren't interested in going further into a polyamorous relationship.

Hashing out the details generally doesn't get done officially, more in a day-by-day, case-by-case basis. If something isn't working, it gets brought up and discussed so that a solution can be engineered. There's not an official plan.

Jealousy? Yep, it's been an issue, more mine than his, as compersion doesn't come naturally for me as it does for him. However, with the right people, the jealousy isn't manifested as much if any. If I was hurt by him giving something to someone that he won't give to me, we'd discuss that. That hasn't happened to date; I've noticed that other people bring aspects of his personality out that I'd like to see more often myself, and so I'm working on learning to bring that out of him towards myself as well.

There's never an official rulebook or plan of things. There's a lot of communication and negotiation to the mutual benefit of all parties involved.

06-23-2008, 10:48 AM	#3 (permalink)
Ripley & Ender Here to Stay Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 21 Location: ohio Status: Couple	Re: Some questions to satisfy my curiosity Disclaimer:[QUOTE]Everyone is different. This is what works right now for my marriage. We have limited experience. YMMV, etc.[/QUOTE How did we broach it? Well, we were talking about swinging and how both of us like to be close to people emotionally. I don't know if was officially broached or if it just veered around until the subject was reached and opened. Yes, we've had other people who weren't interested in going further into a polyamorous relationship. Hashing out the details generally doesn't get done officially, more in a day-by-day, case-by-case basis. If something isn't working, it gets brought up and discussed so that a solution can be engineered. There's not an official plan. Jealousy? Yep, it's been an issue, more mine than his, as compersion doesn't come naturally for me as it does for him. However, with the right people, the jealousy isn't manifested as much if any. If I was hurt by him giving something to someone that he won't give to me, we'd discuss that. That hasn't happened to date; I've noticed that other people bring aspects of his personality out that I'd like to see more often myself, and so I'm working on learning to bring that out of him towards myself as well. There's never an official rulebook or plan of things. There's a lot of communication and negotiation to the mutual benefit of all parties involved.