[SweetandSalty1]

Thanks so much for all the replies. You have all been very helpful. Special thanks to iapr for your long and thought out response. Reading the responses has really helped to ease my fears. My husband and I def. have a healthy, loving and stable relationship and agree that our relationship sexual or otherwise will always be top priority over swinging partners. As for the weight issue I am 5'5" and weigh 160 lbs. I would like to get down to 120 if I can. I have stretch marks all over my stomach from pregnancy but they have faded a lot and the rest of my body is a bit chubby but firm. I think I have an attractive face as well. My husband is 6'1" and is 220 lbs. He doesn't look very overweight but has a gut which he hates but I always tell him he is super sexy which he is. He has a gorgeous face, beautiful hazel eyes, full lips and just a nice face. I guess even though many people have told me over the years that I am attractive I have always felt insecure. That is just something I need to work through I guess. We are thinking of maybe venturing into swinging (going to a club or party) in about 6 months. We know we don't need to look perfect but would both like to lose a few lbs and get toned.

I was just curious what everyones first experience with swinging was like?! Did you start out with soft or full swapping? Were you nervous? At clubs what are the average age ranges? I am thinking that at 25 my hubby and I will be one of the younger couples. We are pretty open though and have no problem with playing with a couple that is 40-50 if we are attracted to them. Actually I think we would enjoy it because I am sure they could teach us a thing or two lol. Has anyone found that swinging has actually improved or spiced up your sex life with your spouse? Has it improved your self confidence? One of the things that really appeals to me about it is that I feel like a whole new world has opened up to me. Growing up I never even thought about anything other than the typical vanilla lifestyle because I just didn't think something like this was an option. Then a few years ago I saw an episode of Oprah that talked about swinging and it really interested me. At first I thought it was something I would never be into. Initially thinking about watching your spouse have sex with another woman is very scary. After much discussion with my hubby though we agree that not only would it turn us on but it also would be a great chance to experience other people and explore our desires. How many people can say that they get to live out all their fantasies?! We have always been very adventurous sexually and so swinging is something that we think would be a good fit with us.

Anyway thanks again for all the replies and I am sure I will be posting a lot more because I have many questions!!