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Originally Posted by javelin  You'd think when you meet someone at say Hedo, you already have a lot in common, a shared interest. When the real world comes back, I think people turn back into everyday people and those cool new friends they met on vacation loose relevance in the real world. |
I have to agree with LikeMinds on this. Vacations are often an escape from everyday life. They can recharge your batteries for living that life no matter how busy it is.
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Originally Posted by javelin Also, I don't expect to be thrust into peoples lives on a daily basis, but would like to be given a chance to make friends. Like I said, we aren't into the casual nature of casual swinging. I used to defend the term swinging, even apply it to ourselves, but that was early on. Once I saw the conquest attitude at work, well, that pretty much ended it for me. Thus, the appeal of polyamory. Thus the too busy comment, it is going to be hard to get to know anyone well enough to develop a poly relationship without ever getting the chance to get to know them. |
I'm reading that you don't like the casualness of the swinging lifestyle. (And for the most part it is casual sex.) That now you are looking for a polyamorous relationship instead. Where are you looking to find another couple? Within the swinging community?
If so, then I fear you have a hard road ahead of you. Have you done an internet search for a poly group in your area? In order to find like-minded people you need to look for them in the right place. Though the swinging community is where we found our other husband and wife, it isn't the norm at all. And truthfully, I wasn't looking for it at all. Casual sex was ok with me. I had my husband for the rest. I just believe you will have better luck finding what you are looking for in the poly community.
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