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Originally posted by Sakaysi
I want to let her know that I find her very attractive and would luv to explore the possibilty of having an a sexual relationship with her (if she's into that of course)....
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John and Roxy both have very good points also, I'll relay my experiences of being both on the sending and receiving sides.
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YOu would need to actually go out of your way and risk rejection by approaching her and saying "hey I just got to know you a little but am very attracted to you and just wondered if you found me at all interesting
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I have walked in the position of what it typically a man's shoes.
There was a guy that I worked with, (although we worked opposite shifts) And I really, really had the hots for him. Now mind you I was probably about your age. I wanted him terrible for "sex". What I did was pick up a card (humorous with and edge of sex in the context) and sent him a brief note letting him know what I felt. I did this three times. The first two times I was an anonymous sender, the third time I gave my name and phone number. It was kind of like giving an element of mystery.
End result, he was flattered we dated for a while, we had sex, I quickly lost my infatuation as the man just plain stunk in the bed. And he wasn't anything near mentally that I would have liked as a person when I got to know him better. But I'd have never known that had I not followed through with my lustfull desires.
Have to agree with Roxy on the flowers deal, don't send roses. Bad call for a first attempt. Go with something along the lines of "tiger lilies" in a nice floral arrangement, or whatever is in season at the moment. Attach a card to it and if your braver than I was go ahead, put your name and number in the first note. My thinking though is people like the element of being secretly romanced and if she is anything like I was (which it sounds like as you said she comes across cold and impersonal) then a fast approach will most like "turn her off".
I turned away many advances of that nature during my single years. My now husband....and to this day I still get tingly at remembering this, after much just in passing hello's and brief conversations over several years, one day he walked into my office and closed the door part way. He looked at me and said,
"I am going to be out of town for the next two weeks, but I thought perhaps when I return that maybe you would be willing to join me for breakfast some morning when you aren't to busy."
Number one, a breakfast didn't sound like he wanted a roll in the hay. Number two, I remember how frightened he looked just to ask me. (He is 15 years my senior)
The end result was we had dinner together instead of breakfast. Second date we were rolling in the sack and several years later we married.
Which ever way it works out for you, you'll never know what you have missed (or would have rather skipped) if you don't take a risk.
Good luck and I would love to hear what you decide and if you wind up in a "love story" or a "horror story".
Lori