Actually John you pretty much summed it up for me overall.
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IT was an evolution of sorts.
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I never thought that you could have a sexual relationship with anyone (male or female) outside of a committed relationship, so in the beginning when my husband first hinted around by asking if I would like to have an FF encounter, I felt threatened in our own relationship. (does that make sense?) We eventually began watching more XXX movies and from time to time he would make more comments. We began to open up more in our own sexual lives and found that the idea of multiple partners enhanced our own love lives. The thought of openly being your own porn movie (for lack of better words) was so erotic.
Due to the moral issues that are ingrained in our heads (much more so for women than men) we had to then investigate it further. The more we found out the hotter our own love life became as we discovered there is an acceptable way to achieve fantasies (other than through mind and hand stimulation) with other people.... AND FEEL GOOD ABOUT IT!
Although we aren't currently swinging right now, neither of us have any regrets and often we use one of our experiences in our love making.
Just keep taking it slow and let her be the one to decide if and when she is ready. If and when you do ever decide to 'plunge' in, neither of you will regret it if you are both in aggreement and have placed a guidline of rules and boundries beforehand and do your darndest to adhere to them.
Lori