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Originally Posted by TNT  Who brought up the topic of swinging?
Teresa |
Umm, neither of us. We had some friends (more like aquaintances) that dared us to go to 'the wildest party you've ever been to' one night at a neighborhood BBQ. We were both a bit sheltered before this but always adventurous in other ways. We stood up to the dare, knowing little of the details. We ended up at Conclave, which at the time was the biggest swinger/alternative convention in the midwest. I did the deer in the headlights, honey get me another drink thing for most of the dance. Bob was very protective and was quite surprised when I said, OK - let's go upstairs and see the rest. We ended up playing in a party room that night, without all the usual discussion of boundaries, etc.
We shared a room with the friends who had brought us, but didn't play with them. They turned out not to be swingers, just party animals (as a matter of fact, they are no longer a couple). When we were finally alone the next day, we were both surprised to learn that we had a great time, that there was no jealousy and we wanted to do it again! We decided to try a saner approach though. We searched out clubs in our area and began to frequent them (one in particular) regularly. And that was the beginning.
Knowing what I do about the lifestyle now, this should have been a disaster. For us that one dare has provided years of sexual satisfaction and fun. We've continued to evolve in our relationship and are constantly reminded that there is always something new to learn about your partner and yourself.