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Originally Posted by warkman  Everyone at this party were swingers and you hadn't met this couple (that your wife had known for years) until this party. Is that correct? Even if this couple had played with your wife before you were married, it seems quite rude to me that the husband wouldn't have gotten to know you and establish permission to touch before getting physical with your wife, even if it was "just kissing and feeling her up." And then to add the comment seems assholically (if I may coin a word) hurtful and exclusionary. |
I like the new coined word, and agree with you.....plus plain rude to not get permission first.....but.....with the thought that the Mrs didn't stop the other guy, then maybe that's how *they* play together......for me and "Baby Girl", we don't kiss the opposite sex, so for us, this wouldn't have been tolerated.....
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Originally Posted by Pensacolapair Unfortunatly, there are people who get their pleasure from making others uncomfortable..and love to push other's buttons.
Like any other poor behavior, it continues because it's allowed to continue. Many people in the Lifestyle prefer to be non-confrontational; a fact that button-pushers are aware of and use to their advantage.
We are 'old school' Golden Rule people...we don't disrespect other people and therefore refuse to tolerate disrespect from others toward ourselves.
In our case, G (our female half) wouldn't have had to 'discuss' it with me..she would have handed him his head verbally, knowing that if he wanted to continue to be an ass after that, M would be readily available to do the same physically.
The only way button-pushers learn is when they push that button that blows up in their face. |
Agreed wholeheartedly.....my partner agrees that I won't put up with "anyone's" crap......in my own right, even as a "newbie", I have no problem challenging the "Alpha Male" of *ANY* group, insomuch as they want to be rude to me or my partner......
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Originally Posted by fun4Ds I don't want to be put in the spotlight by others. Mrs.fun always said lets just say "stop". Well that doesn't work for me personally in a group setting. It putts me in an uncomfortable place. I learned what works for me personally.
1. I try a hand signal. I don't want to give my secret signal here, but I do have one. We couldn't have more than one. Its too confusing especially when we are fucking. The hand signals are for social getting acquainted, only.
I have learned to get Mrs.funs attention. Its all about that EYE CONTACT
I just stand up and say "I'm not comfortable " If that is missed, I say STOP !There is no other way for us. |
I agree, it's gotta be about the eye contact.....my problem tho, if any activity is happening with "Baby Girl", her eyes may be going into the back of her head in pleasure......so I'd have to wait for her to be less.......uh.......stimulated.
