[blondie77]

Our first time playing was definately not the best. Hubby and I thought we had discussed everything and covered every possible thing we could, but nothing can prepare you for the first time you see your S.O. with someone else. For our first time it was with just one woman and I definately felt jealous. There wasn't any sex involved that first time, but some very serious soft play. I had such mixed emotions afterwards, mainly because I was the one who initially brought up swinging and then I was the one who had second thoughts about the whole thing. I didn't really get jealous about anything sexual they did except the kissing. I don't know why that bothered me...but it really did. Just seeing my husband kissing another woman about stopped my heart...but nothing else he did with her had that same effect on me. I think it was mainly shock, at first; perhaps I thought I'd bitten off a little more than I could chew. One positive thing came out of that situation though: Hubby and I had the most heartfelt talk afterwards and I have never felt closer to him than at that moment. It really brought us closer, gave us new things to talk about, and an opportunity to reassure each other. I am happy to say that now him kissing another woman totally turns me on...but really I don't think you can know how you'll feel or even really prepare for it until it happens. Just remember that anytime either one of you feels uncomfortable you can stop. Communication is the key and I really can't stress that enough. Good luck!