We put a slightly different spin on the question as our answer: Sex
should get better with age!
We would submit that the biggest reason that sex might seem to go downhill with age for many is because as a society, we feel that it should - it's 'spoda! There are 2 predominate stereotypes, one for each sex:
- For guys, starting at age 30, subtract 2 minutes of duration from every hardon for each year after 30...needless to say, by 40, all men are 'minute-men' - and by 50 it won't get hard at all without chemical assistance.
- For women, starting at age 35, they develop a Nun-like attitude towards all things sexual in preparation for a potential 'Gramma' or matron role. This Zen-like pursuit has the physical effect of causing their breasts to migrate south at a rate of 1 inch for every 5 years and dry up their girly-parts progressively until pubic hair is considered a fire-hazard due to potential labia-panty friction.
But seriously, yes,
some people do have diminished physical capabilities as a result of age.. but our experience has been that some people's age-diminished cababilities are still on a par with the
current capabilities of some younger folks. And it's suprising how many 30-something fellas have a problem with performance anxiety and/or premature ejaculation! But the thing about the whole age issue is that it's one of those 'eye-of-the-beholder' things: To a 20 year-old.. the idea that their 40 year old mother can suck a golf ball through a garden hose or that Dad can lay pipe better than the local utility company is guarenteed to be considered both gross and impossible. And how many 30 year-olds could conceive that their 8 year old's 50 year old 'Nana' won the Sexy PJ contest at Hedo and that both she and Grampa were the ringleaders of a multi-couple group-grope in the hot-tub later that evening?
As has been pointed out by others in this thread, with age (hopefully) comes experience. One learns what pleases others and learns better what pleases themselves. For couples, ideally you become sexually well 'tuned' to each and develop a special playfulness that lends itself well to more openness and experimentation. Additionally, (again, hopefully) your life tends to become a bit more stable - less pressure career-wise, personal relationships mature, and peer pressure becomes more the minor issue it really is. Perhaps a better way of putting it would be that you just don't take things as earth-shatteringly serious and as a result can just kick back and revel in what sex should be about - one hell of a lot of fun!