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SexyNSingle · 06-09-2008, 11:26 AM

As a woman who has both simplexes, I can attest to the stigma that is often associated with Herpes.

I made the mistake many many years ago and didn't disclose to my straight partner about having herpes. We decided to play and with 2 weeks he was calling me in shear disbelief that he genital herpes. I felt so ashamed for not saying something, but after a lot of research and communication with my doctor etc, I learned that chances are he had the simplex for a long time, and it came out due to stress or poor nutrition.

I take Valtrex and I feel like I have been given a new lease on life. I do disclose it to my partners because I feel they have a choice and it is their choice not mine.

My partner amazed me after I told him, he was upset yes, but instead of being angry (his wife had played with my now ex husband and he didn't dislose it to her), he asked me to educate him, which I thought was incredibly mature and honest of him.

I disclose my situation to all partners, there is no ifs ands or buts about it and if I have an outbreak, simply put there is no playing.

06-09-2008, 11:26 AM	#39 (permalink)
SexyNSingle Here to Stay Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 59 Location: British Columbia, Canada Status: Single Swing Lifestyle Name:TastyTreats4U	Re: That pesky cold sore As a woman who has both simplexes, I can attest to the stigma that is often associated with Herpes. I made the mistake many many years ago and didn't disclose to my straight partner about having herpes. We decided to play and with 2 weeks he was calling me in shear disbelief that he genital herpes. I felt so ashamed for not saying something, but after a lot of research and communication with my doctor etc, I learned that chances are he had the simplex for a long time, and it came out due to stress or poor nutrition. I take Valtrex and I feel like I have been given a new lease on life. I do disclose it to my partners because I feel they have a choice and it is their choice not mine. My partner amazed me after I told him, he was upset yes, but instead of being angry (his wife had played with my now ex husband and he didn't dislose it to her), he asked me to educate him, which I thought was incredibly mature and honest of him. I disclose my situation to all partners, there is no ifs ands or buts about it and if I have an outbreak, simply put there is no playing.