[kittyscave]

My opinion only... Unless your wife is on board, you would be a definite NO go for me. I would not want to be the one over whom she gets hurt if she ever did find out. I would not feel right playing with someone who was only playing under the veil of deceit or secrecy.

I feel for you and the difficult position you are in. I imagine your wife must feel very sad, too, that she can no longer provide you with what you crave.

I hope you can find some one more open and accepting than I would be or that your wife comes to appreciate that you need, in some form, from some person, the physical release she cannot provide.